Moving – baby edition

This is how we’re surviving in an empty house with a newborn.

We are in the process of moving to California (yay PCSing).

So if you are keeping score, c-section, newborn and moving nearly all at once! Yikes.

The movers picked up our furniture early so it will meet us in California. Meaning we had to sort what we needed to keep for us, the pets and L who wasn’t quite yet 2 months yet. He will be just over 3 months when we fly back to the mainland.

We are allowed 2 suitcases each but I managed to fit most of L’s things in a carry on sized suitcase with a few exceptions.

Here’s what fits in his bag:

  • 3 swaddles
  • About 5 newborn outfits (he was wearing that size when I packed)
  • 5 0-3 month outfits
  • 2 3 month outfits
  • 2 outfits in different sizes for the plane
  • 4 swaddle blankets
  • About 8 receiving blankets (he spits up a lot and I’m not doing laundry everyday).
  • Rattle
  • A couple other toys
  • Wash cloths, 2 towels and travel size baby wash
  • Baby first aid/grooming kit
  • Baby monitor
  • two books so we could read to him


We also kept all our cloth diapers, cloth wipes, changing mats and wet bags. We have enough where we can wash diapers every 3 days. I still have room in his suitcase to fit some of this.

Other items we kept that don’t fit in his suitcase.

  • Pack N Play
  • Stroller
  • Car seat and base
  • Diaper bag
  • Beco
  • Pump, a couple bottles, storage bags and brush
  • Boppy

I know it seems like a lot but we have used all of it. We also borrowed a swing from a friend.

We found a used rocking chair on base we bought soil handsome place to sit for late night nursing sessions.

The one thing we have missed the most is the diaper change station part of the Pack N Play  and the caddy that attaches to the side. Instead we have a mat and our supplies on the floor.

I also miss having a baby bath tub. Our sinks are not conducive to bathing him in one of them without an additional vessel.

So right or wrong, that’s how we’re surviving with a newborn in an empty house!


Planner Addiction

A few months ago I posted about my beautiful planner I bought from Plum Paper Designs.

This month I signed up for a monthly kit from Ink & Wink. I received my kit yesterday so I wanted to share what was in it!

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I love the concept of the kit so far. The Wink Kit was $23/month and you have to be given an invitation to join.

There are some cool things in the kit, like two rolls of washi tape. One is gold glitter, the other is clear with pink Eiffel Towers in the center of the strip. Washi tape is fun, I just don’t quite know how to use it yet!

There were also some stickers, one larger page and one smaller, both wedding themed. I will use them to decorate my calendar when I’ll be attending my college roommates wedding (yay!)


Other items included were a small stationary booklet, a heart shaped sticky note pad, a heart shaped die-cut, clothes pins that look like cats, index tabs, a packet of tea, some white masking stickers, and a couple other single stickers.


According to the Ink and Wink web site this is their third month of business, so I can’t wait to see what else they have in store in the next few months!


Favorite Baby Products: Stroller and Car Seat

So far we love love love everything about our travel system!

Stroller: W is very active and has to be for the military and my goal is to to run marathon by the time L is 1. We knew we needed a jogging stroller to fit those needs so we looked at the Bob strollers. We picked the Bob Revolution Flex. So far we love it. It’s called Flex because you can easily adjust the handle bar up and down which really helps keep us both comfortable when pushing it since we have a foot difference in height.

Neither one of us has taken it running yet so we still have to test that out. We have taken it on some decent walks and out shopping with us and it is a very smooth push. Braking is easy and turning is a breeze. I feel very safe with him in it. Once we figured out where all the buttons are it is easy to collapse and open up. However it is fairly heavy; 9 weeks post partum from a c-section and I struggle lifting it into our truck. It also does not fit in the cab and has to go in the bed. We purchased a truck cover for items like this and even at the Bob’s collapsed size, it pokes up into the cover.

The Bob also doesn’t come with a snack tray for the baby. We also bought a separate add on that you hook onto the handle bar for cup holders and a place to put phone, keys, etc.

Car seat: We wanted a travel system for the ease of getting L around so once we decided on the Bob it really narrowed down car seat options. We decided to go with the Britax B Safe. With this car seat we had to buy an adapter to be able to hook the car seat into the stroller so with that it works great! It’s easy to take in and out of the stroller.

I really like the car seat itself. It’s not too terribly heavy, it’s a good fit for him and it fits nicely in our truck. We have to put him in the middle seat due to air bags on the sides of the cab so with me only being 5’2″ it’s definitely hard for me to get him in and out but that’s not the car seats fault. Snapping him into the base is really easy. And you can hear the audible click when you get him secure.

There is a release system at the front of the seat that allows you to loosen the straps to make getting baby in and out easier. Then you pull the strap to tighten. I definitely struggle with this part and it seems like his shoulders get very tight while the lower part remains loose. Again I feel this is user error because W doesn’t have the same trouble I do.

One issue I have with the car seat is that is not compatible with many products outside of Britax or Bob. Since we are moving we wanted to send our stroller ahead and get a cheap universal one to use in the meantime, but I couldn’t find anything reasonable that the B Safe worked with. The Snap N Go seems to work with some Britax products but not the B Safe. Since I was busy with L and the move I did not do a ton of research on this, but what I did read indicated that it was not very compatible with anything else I also did not have time to go to a store and test anything out.

Here’s what our Bob and Britax B Safe look like together:

Bob Stroller and Britax B Safe car seat

So far, that’s how I feel about these products, we’ll see how his growth and my ability to run add to this later!

Hope you find this helpful!


Favorite Baby Products: The Swaddle

During pregnancy I did a ton a of research on baby products ranging from strollers to diapers. I went off recommendations from friends and from my hours worth of online research. Now I want to share some of my favorite things that we have used so far.

One of the biggest life savers has been the Easy Swaddle from Aden + Anais. This thing is idiot proof. I am horrible at swaddling. I couldn’t get the hang of it in baby classes on plastic dolls and I really can’t do it on a wiggly and very tired and angry small child.

So this swaddle is amazing. My sister in law sent us a gift set from Aden and Anais and so W and I thought we’d try it (we love their Muslin swaddle blankets already so let’s test the swaddle).

(Please ignore the very unhappy look on my unwilling participant in the step by step below).

To use the swaddle, you first get their little feet and legs into the bottom part.

Easy Swaddle step 1

This swaddle uses snaps, so you snap over each shoulder.

Easy Swaddle Step 2

Then you tuck down the right arm and fold the flap on your left over it. You pull it across their body and tuck down their left arm.

Easy Swaddle Step 3

Then you take the long flap and wrap it over the left arm, right arm, around the back and snap it in front.

Easy Swaddle Step 4 Final Product

This keeps both arms complete tucked in. He has wiggled out of it a couple times but I believe that was user error in me not getting it tight enough.

The only downside is that there is no way to see if his diaper is wet or dirty, you have to completely unswaddle. I noticed the SummerInfant ones have a slit so you can check the diaper but he ninja’d his way out of that swaddle immediately.

The material is very light weight and gauzy so it’s not too hot but definitely keeps them warm and snuggly.

Just wanted to share this awesome find, I would recommend it to anyone!

(My husband gives this product 10 spit ups out of 10 spit ups!).


How do you other moms function?

I’ve always had a difficult time with balance. For example, working a 40 hour week and being able exercise, cook, clean etc. Never could do it. It was either work and eat cereal every night and do nothing else. Or not work and do my best to attempt to exercise, cook, clean, errands, and keep on top of everything.

Now add in my sweet babe…and I cannot balance anything. My entire day is meeting each and every need of this little guy and then doing it all over the next day. I don’t know if he just needs more attention than some babies or what but I find I do very little in regards to regular life activities.

Here has been my day so far, which began at 4am.

4am – 5:15am: Feed baby, put baby back in bed. Baby wakes up, feed baby again, put back in bed. Get up six times to soothe him back to sleep.

5:15 finally crawl back in bed, hold breath to listen and see if he woke up, again.

5:35: Tell W his alarm went off and he hit snooze.

5:40-5:45: hold breath hoping W getting up and getting ready for work doesn’t wake L.

5:45-6:35 – SLEEP!!!

6:35- L is up. Change diaper, dress, play.

6:45-7:40- head downstairs, feed baby, drink coffee, W makes me breakfast so I don’t starve to death since I have no use of hands.

7:40 – 8 am: Feed baby, snuggle baby.

8am – fail at moving sleeping baby off my lap

8:02 am – change diaper, try to get baby to nap (he has puffy eyes and won’t stop yawning!)

8:05am, change diaper again.

8:06-9am: playtime, tummy time, change diaper again.

9:00:9:25- feed baby. snuggle sleepy baby, try to put baby down. Again.

9:30am: Baby wakes up and screams because he’s over tired. Change baby again.

9:35-10am: Rock baby in rocking chair to calm him.

10am – 10:10am – put baby in swing in hopes of him falling asleep.

10:15am – breathe sigh of relief.


And now here I am typing away…Yesterday we did all of that above until he fell asleep at 2:30. He eats roughly every hour to hour and a half, anywhere from 20 minutes to an hour. Completely unpredictable. He woke up from his nap at 6 last night, then it’s time for fussiness, cluster feeding, bath time and bed!

So someone explain to me how I have a “social life.” I have a hard time making plans because I know I can’t stick to them. Screaming hungry baby? Drop everything, feed and soothe.

I’m not sure if this is a lack of my life balancing skills, new mommy hood or what. I don’t know when this changes or if this is what it is for now. I’m not complaining, hanging out with L and making him happy and meeting his needs is my entire priority. I am thrilled and grateful to have the opportunity to be his mommy.

But I know it’s affecting everything else. I’m not capable of running errands. I have said for 5 days in a row that I’d go grab groceries and some needed supplies. Every time W has tried to come home and bring me the car so I could drop him back off at work and run errands, L has been asleep or I know he’s about to be hungry.

After W is home for the day? Sure let me grab my keys….and cue screaming hungry baby.

I think I’ve eaten with two hands maybe 6 times in 9 weeks and only because someone (mom, mother in law, friend, husband) took pity on me and held the angry baby so I could inhale my food.

And I will gladly do this each and every day.

But my inability to do a little work from home, run any errands (someone screams non stop in the car) or even see/talk to/text my friends…can get frustrating.

But I think the one hard part is I know other people are capable of doing it…and I’m just not right now. So to you awesome mamas who are pro status at this, keep on keeping on! I know my limits and my flaws, and I just can’t.

Unfortunately, I can definitely tell friendships are sliding, people are feeling ignored, neglected, etc. Things I would usually be able to keep up on, banking, paperwork, etc are falling by the wayside.

The same happened towards the end of my pregnancy. I was exhausted and stressed (and my awesome mom was here for a month!). So again, lots of me being useless to anyone but myself.

It also happened a year and a half ago when I had my miscarriage. I was completely consumed by grief for upwards of six months. I functioned at a very minimal level but I was emotionally unavailable and unreliable.

Maybe I’m selfish. Maybe I’m weak. I made many mistakes and I will make many more.

These last three years have been wonderful and hard in so many ways. Great friends were made and then lost, due to the way in which I cope with and handle my life.

Thus my pattern continues as this sweet angel of mine takes up my whole heart and nearly all my attention.

So to the fun plans I have cancelled, or will cancel in the future, I’m oh so sorry! The birthdays I forget, the thank you cards I don’t send, the phone calls and texts I miss and forget to return, I’m sorry. And to those who are patient enough to put up with me, thanks. I know I have my flaws, thank you for accepting me as I am. I love every second of being with this guy but having a newborn has been so much harder than I ever thought!

Now while he’s sleeping…do I shower, eat, sleep, write, check emails, clean???? So many options and so very very little time!