I have seen a bunch of articles going around this last week, as April 1st is tomorrow so I decided this morning to make my own little post.
April 1st, considered in our society as a day of practical jokes.
When I was a kid it was innocent, sometimes funny but mostly stupid.
Now it’s sort of horrifying.
It’s nearly three years to do the day that my husband and I decided that we were ready financially and emotionally to start a family.
After one miscarriage and months worth of fertility treatment, we are truly lucky that we are expecting our first child in the next two months. And this is nothing compared to what many families go through.
But that doesn’t make all those awful feelings of infertility and loss diminish in the slightest.
To joke on April 1st by leading people to believe that you are pregnant is extremely hurtful to people like me. To people who struggle to, or absolutely cannot, have children.
What are you hoping to achieve exactly? You want 200 likes and 100 comments on your Facebook? Do something charitable. Do something to help better yourself or the world. Or if it’s that important to you to get a “laugh” think of something better.
Last year my best friend, who has hair down to her butt (and has the entire time I’ve known her) got quite creative with a camera and posted a picture that truly made it look like she had cut off nearly all her hair. She definitely got some attention.
But did it make anyone sit at home crying? Not that I’m aware of.
Every action and decision you make has a consequence. But are all the comments that pop up on your phone going to provide solace for someone who just got another negative pregnancy test?
Unless it has happened to you, you will probably never understand this type of pain or grief. I hope for you that you never have to go through it. But please, don’t make what is already such a difficult experience worse just to find a little amusement.
To those struggling through infertility or loss right now, I am truly sorry. If you want to reach out and ask questions or look for support I know a few places you can go. Feel free to contact me here or at firstname.lastname@example.org or find me on Facebook.