National Infertility Awareness Week 2017

Time heals all wounds, right?

Wrong.

Wounds might be easier to deal with. The pain slightly easier to bear.

But they are never truly healed.

Some days it just hits you and today was one of those days.

Our fertility struggle started more than 5 years ago. Our loss 1202 days ago. I’ve had two beautiful, healthy, happy children since then.

But that doesn’t change the loss and pain we endured to get here.

While the sadness and grief no longer consume me, there is a piece of my heart that still mourns that lost little love, each negative pregnancy test, each time I was told no or maybe next time.

Today was a normal day, as I loaded up the kids and left for our MOPs meeting (Moms of Preschoolers).

Today’s speaker spoke about her journey through infertility and loss. Her story was tragic and heartbreaking, something no one should have to go through. I sat there and cried with her.

After our speaker finished, we were provided discussion questions to use at our table.

Today, I heard several very brave women, share their stories of fertility struggles and losses. It humbled me to watch their bravery unfold. They shared their pain. Their battle.

When it was my turn to share, I was surprised when I had to stop and try (not very successfully) to regain some composure.

I’ve been quite open about what we’ve been through. It’s been awhile since I really talked about that blazing, joyous moment of finding out we were pregnant to that heart-wrenching, life altering moment when we weren’t.

I remember thinking to myself how weird it was that I was crying, I feel like I don’t usually cry when I talk about our journey anymore.

As I’ve shared our struggled throughout the last few years, I’ve spoken with quite a few people who struggled too, with infertility, secondary infertility or miscarriages. But being in a room with so many wonderful people, many of whom had this shared experience was empowering. Even through all of the accompanying sadness, it proved, again, I was not alone.

I’m not.

And you are not alone.

 

Listen up.

Don’t suffer in silence.

Check out Resolve to learn more about National Infertility Awareness Week and more available resources.

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Start Asking questions

This is my third year supporting National Infertility Awareness Week (check out more information here)

The theme this year is #StartAsking . What does that mean?

It’s time to start asking questions about infertility and what can be done about it.

With two healthy young adults, I knew that a year of trying on our own, something just wasn’t right.

We had no idea what we were doing and no one in either of our families (that we know of) had been through something like this.

We felt alone and ashamed asking for help but we decided that’s what we needed to do. My OB heard my story and put me on medication (clomid) that ended up being an absolutely disaster. Then we tried the next thing (femara) before we were finally sent to an RE.

I wish in those months, I would have known more. I wish I would have asked questions.

Clomid messed me up pretty badly and I wish I would have know to have more monitoring done during that time frame. Who knows what it ended up doing to my system.

Finally with the RE we learned to ask the right questions. Side effects, the entire process, the entire cost since our insurance didn’t help with a lot. What were our options? What was our back up plan? What were the chances?

Some of the answers, we didn’t like. Some answers were scary. But the more we asked, the more we started to take back control in this very lonely process.

I also started to ask, why me? What about everyone else? The more I thought about it, I started to share our journey, which was very cathartic for me. And that’s when I learned that I wasn’t alone. And it wasn’t just us. I felt less alone. While I was sad others were dealing with this struggle, feeling less isolated definitely helped me navigate how to cope with everything we were facing. We got there by asking questions and doing our research too.

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National Infertility Awareness Week 2016:

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In April 2012 we hoped to start a little family. After one miscarriage, lots of heartache and months of fertility treatments, we finally were blessed with a son in May 2015.

While it took us just over two years to have a healthy pregnancy, we had a relatively easy journey compared to the heartbreak so many others go through.

Know that if you are struggling with fertility, you are not alone. Find your voice and start asking questions.

We fought for our ability to have a family by asking questions and getting the medical professional help that we needed.

Here’s the list of events Resolve.org has going on this month. So much useful, helpful information out there!

If you want to know more about our fertility journey or any other questions, don’t hesitate to ask!

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You Are Not Alone – 1 in 8 are affected by Infertility

The difference between last year and this year for me is substantial.

This time last year life was…in a word, miserable. I was struggling through so many things. First, we had been trying to conceive for two years. But on top of that, we had a miscarriage in January 2014 and were trying to make it through the grieving process.

This year, after undergoing months of fertility treatment with some amazing doctors and the unwavering support of my wonderful husband – were are counting down the days until our first child is due.

It has been a crazy journey that we started three years ago when we decided we were ready for a family.

While I feel so lucky and blessed to have this little one on the way, Resolve and the Infertility Community are near and dear to my heart.

I spent so much time wondering why me? And why doesn’t anyone else deal with this? And then I realized one day that people do…but they suffer in silence. They feel isolated, embarrassed, alone and scared. Dealing with infertility is hard enough but doing it alone is even worse.

When I opened up about our miscarriage and everything we were dealing with, it felt amazing. I first really opened up last year during NIAW. It was incredible how many people reached out to me. Not only did people contact me with support but it was the amount of people who came out saying they struggle too –those dealing with infertility or with a miscarriage. I was shocked at how many struggled with these issues and never said a word. Something I understand so well.

So for those people and others who feel alone, my blog this week will primarily be dedicated to National Infertility Awareness Week to remind everyone, You Are Not Alone. Join me with the Bloggers Unite Challenge.

For more information on infertility and NIAW please head here.

If you want to talk about your journey, have questions or comments you can feel free to write here! Also follow me on Instagram @theknnlife or email me at theknnlife@gmail.com You can also find me on Facebook!

Here is the first post on infertility that I wrote last year, in case you’d like to see it.

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